Our politics are often about "being good" instead of "doing good". Last week we saw the tribes divide - albeit politely - into pro-or anti-barbecues. And yet when politics is truly about the personal, we have so much in common: getting kids through school. Having enough money to pay bills, buy a home, and retire. Having our health and time to spend with family and friends. What we need now is the right kind of personal politics - a politics of this ordinary stuff.